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The glorious sun hanging over a beach.
The glorious sun hanging over a beach.
(Anastasiya Vragova https://www.pexels.com/photo/sun-setting-over-waving-sea-with-sandy-shore-6662827/)

Like how the Sun

Is always there,

Radiating bravely, constantly; always.

A source of optimism, strength, and hope.

Perhaps,

We,

Should aspire to do the same.

Whether rain or hail,

Dark clouds covering its glory,

Still,

it remains.

A still ocean. Mysterious and mesmerising.
A still ocean. Mysterious and mesmerising.
(Pixabay https://www.pexels.com/photo/ocean-view-509880/)

It took me five years to recover from a bullying incident. It was only until I met my spiritual mentor did I learn that forgiveness didn’t equate to running away. Instead, it meant giving me much-needed peace and closure.

Time helps to heal our wounds, but it can never fully heal a scar. Is your painful event a wound or a scar? You have the power to choose — as I eventually found out.

The bullying incident involved a senior molesting me, threatening me with violence, and mocking me. …

A glorious view of Singapore beneath a setting sun.
A glorious view of Singapore beneath a setting sun.
(Stijn Dijkstra https://www.pexels.com/photo/photo-of-singapore-cityscape-during-golden-hour-2499786/)

You’ve heard about White Privilege. But have you heard about Chinese Privilege?

This term seems to have been popping up more on social media, especially among ‘woke’ audiences in Singapore. You see both the minorities and majority complaining that Chinese people have lighter sentences on the Instagram comments of crime-related posts, that Chinese people have an advantage when it comes to jobs, that Chinese people are racist because of their privilege, etc.

As a Chinese person, this, of course, is both sad and worrying. But my feelings do not matter here. …

I am 21 this year.

I haven’t done anything remarkable in my life.

So many missed opportunities and regrets— friendships, romance, money, etc.

A ‘trippy’ capture of a woman falling backwards, but at the same time, seemingly floating in the air with a quality of otherworldliness.
A ‘trippy’ capture of a woman falling backwards, but at the same time, seemingly floating in the air with a quality of otherworldliness.
(Tim Grundtner https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-in-white-dress-falling-on-gray-concrete-floor-3856635/)

Realisation

I was applying for a university scholarship before being utterly derailed. This was due to two essay topics. One was, “Discuss your proudest achievements.” The other was, “Write about your volunteering experiences.”

The former saw me scrambling for ideas. I brainstormed for ages, but couldn’t find anything I was truly proud of. I was an average person who did decently in school, played sports leisurely, and pursued some unprofitable hobbies.

I never had any amazing academic or…

Youthful exuberance; tainted tongues; revealing clothes and arrogant punks; hands held, reaching for more; sweaty bodies behind private doors—the spring of youth in its full, noisy transience.

A man sits in the dark; his devices his only sources of comfort. The loneliness shrouds him together with the darkness.
A man sits in the dark; his devices his only sources of comfort. The loneliness shrouds him together with the darkness.
Sometimes, being alone is good. But anything in excess is well, bad. (cottonbro https://www.pexels.com/photo/silver-macbook-on-brown-wooden-table-4069291/)

Oh life, is it a curse or a blessing to be single? It seems those around me are getting into relationships as quickly as Sonic on steroids. Even worse, as a guy infused with my culture’s toxic masculinity, it seems embarrassing and even shameful to be single.

After a couple of bad dates, awkward conversations, and painful rejections here I am single, somewhat lonely, and envious. Where did I go wrong?

If…

It’s the same for most young adults in Singapore—you will have some time before starting university. So, what are you going to do? For me, I chose customer service.

I was too cowardly to pursue freelance, too productive to stay at home and binge Netflix, and too eager to make money. Hence, I decided to get a job. It’s funny how useless an A-level certificate is—it’s unlikely you can find a job with good pay if you’ve just graduated Junior College (unless you have connections or are very lucky). It’s also tough to find an internship as most companies prefer students with real skills. I.e., ITE and Poly students.

My friend, who works as a tutor, is earning a ton despite only working 20 hours a week. My other…

National Service (NS) is a painful journey for every male Singaporean to go through. As I’ve completed my NS a few weeks ago, I’ve decided to compile a list of advice for those about to embark on this rite of passage. Do note I served NS in the Singapore Civil Defence Force (SCDF), so my advice is not all-encompassing. Without further ado, here are 5 ways to survive NS in Singapore.

1. Prepare a few months before enlistment

Too many guys I’ve seen are mentally and physically ill-prepared for training. Even worse, some don’t even bring the necessary items for NS (Febreeze is a must).

I recommend training for your Individual Physical Proficiency Test (IPPT) about 2–3 months before enlisting to cover the bare minimum of NS fitness. It would be even better if you can get IPPT gold before enlisting. If you do, then most physical exercises NS throws at you should be manageable.

A man jogging
A man jogging
Train for IPPT!

However, do note I said, “bare minimum”, as even IPPT gold doesn’t mean much when you’re in difficult vocations like Commando, Naval Diving Unit, Guards, Firefighting, etc. And if your sergeant is a complete egotistic-head-up-ass-mountain-ape, well, good luck.

Besides your physicality, there’s something else more important — mental strength. I’ve…

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The sword is actually mightier than the pen.

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